There is a lot going on right now. I would be lying if I said that I wasn’t worried, grinding my teeth, and flying into furious rages. But even as a whole lot of crazy shit is being said and done, we still have to make our self-care a priority. We do not have the luxury of falling apart. In order to be useful, and in order to create the world we want to live in, we have to look after ourselves — now more than ever. This is not
selfishness. It is survival.
Many things running altogether in my mind and being upset with that – I start overeating in stress, and this happens whenever I am stressed and I am unable to express my feelings I start overeating… Sometimes I just need a safe space to talk about how I am feeling.
Wait… wait… wait… Don’t think that I am in depression. I can control my feelings and thoughts and also my Diet 😀
Being a single woman is not a tragedy. I am a single woman and proud to be so. I know that some women don’t like being single and will do anything to be with a man. Whatever situation you find yourself in as you go through life; you have to deal with it and this I have learned through my experiences. Circumstances made it that way. I can allow circumstances to dictate to me or I can choose to control that circumstance.
With everything, there is a positive and negative side. It can be lonely being single. I stay with parents and sisters. My daily routine is when I come back home from the job, I help my mom in the kitchen and share with her about my day and other things (I share everything with her). I am a person who is moody and sometimes loves to be alone, with my own. Yesterday, this loneliness was like eating me like hell, I was not able to understand what was happening to me – uneasiness felt lazy (which I am the most… 😀 😛 ). After a long battle with myself, I realized that this feeling is because of the novel which I read during my breaks at my job. It’s a love story, the story of the writer and his beloved.
Ahhh! Such a beautiful story, I was simply imagining myself in the story. I would also love to have someone to cuddle up. Buttttt….. It’s a story which happened with the writer and not me and my life is real and with this thought, my heart broke…. Ouch. 😐 Lol, too filmy n? Hmm. But it’s not, I too was having the dream of the life which the writer’s beloved lived. Anyways this is a life and we have to accept this with all the hiccups and bouncers.
Ahhh… why these writers write such heart touching stories..? I have now begun to enjoy my own company. I am free to do what I want when I want. I can honestly say that the biggest problem in my life now is not having enough money. We all have money blocks 😕 . No matter who you are, and no matter how much self-improvement you’ve done, the one thing that trips absolutely all of us up is the subject of cold hard cash. I am trying to stand on my own – sufficient enough to care for my needs as well as of my parents. I have written my goals on the wall of my room and also started to fulfill them – in which some have fulfilled also. I feel the deep sense of satisfaction as you cross them off every single day. This is how change happens: by creating new habits that support us in being the person we always wanted to be. Among those goals or desires – one is that I will adopt a baby when I will be financially strong enough to care for the baby. Let’s see what the future brings along with it.
Being single has given me the opportunity to truly love myself. In the process I also found myself. I know who I am and what I want from life. I am now a woman with values and high self-esteem. That lost girl has grown into an assertive, emotionally strong, mature woman. I know my strengths and weaknesses. I have learned to cope with loneliness and to enjoy it.
“Believe it yourself. Know Yourself. And bring it to absolutely everything you do”
All that is required to revolutionize your life is a willingness to be radically honest with yourself. So here is the first task: start to be honest, and begin with yourself.
This is life, and you’re in control of it
Here’s what I learned from my past debacle:
- There is no such thing as “the right time.”
- You have to take responsibility for your happiness.
- The universe rewards you for taking risks and doing the right thing.
- Admit what isn’t working.
- To know where you want to go next.
- Rinse and repeat (means keep doing all the above things)
Writing, dancing, traveling, and daydreaming keeps me going. I have been single, married, and divorced; have experienced depression and pure ecstasy. I believe in making my own universe. Excuses drive me crazy. I believe that no one is perfect, but as long as you’re doing your best, you can’t be faulted. Pangloss means “a person who is optimistic regardless of the circumstances” — I identify with that.
My vision of radical self-love evolves and changes every single day. I used to think the most important thing was simply making sure you felt good, and while I still think that’s a valuable yardstick, sometimes we cling to “what feels good” as a way to avoid growth. Being uncomfortable is a crucial part of the transformation. The truth is that radical self-love is a rocky road (with lots of marshmallows) and a constant work in progress. I still have to fight back against my natural instincts to play small every single day. But the flip side is that the more I worship myself and act like my own best friend, the more my life blooms.
I don’t dwell on people who reject me. Every week, I add things to my calendar. Each addition represents a “yes.” I celebrate those entries with gusto and fanfare. Why? Because people sense positive energy. They’re more likely to say “yes” to confidence. Surrounding myself with visual representations of the things I am striving for helps me spring into action every day, and it keeps me motivated when I am gasping for air. So instead of saying something, I acted. 🙄 I started to behave the way I thought someone in this new self-help movement would.
My mission is to show women how magnificent they are, and to inspire them to step up and grab the life they’ve dreamed about with both hands. I want everyone to rebel (not in a negative way though) and start their own personal revolution. I think the definition of failure is not having passion, settling for average, and being too afraid to take chances.
I believe that we have the ability to define everything on our own terms and that we should rigorously question what society tells us is normal or desirable. I want women to love other women and reject the idea that we are in competition with one another. I believe we are all goddesses and it is simply embarrassing to behave any other way.
Some fun facts:
♥ Current Obsessions: To make extra money by working for more hours, Constant Evolution, Writing a book, rainbow everything.
♥ Dislikes: Giving up easily (which I usually don’t do), my biggest pet peeve is passive aggressive people (Fake people), dirty politics being played at a job or in any other field.
♥ Favorite books: I too had a love story – Ravindra Singh, Hold my hand – Durjoy Dutta, If it’s not forever – Durjoy Dutta, Someone like you –Durjoy Dutta, Till the last breath – Durjoy Dutta, half girlfriend –Chetan Bhagat, The Secret.
♥ Style Direction: Everything that suits me.
♥ Heroes and Idols: My dad
♥ Regular happiness practices: Watching favorite t.v shows (Series – Friends, Big Boss, and Dil se Dil tak), Dancing in my living room, having mind-expanding conversations with my friends, laughing out loudly (even when dad scolds me on laughing so loudly) and adventures in life.
♥ Favorite places: My Home, Los Angeles, Singapore, Toronto (which I would visit in near future).
♥ Best Advice I have been Given: All you need is to love someone and to be loved by someone, something to do (For setting an example to others), and something to look forward to.